Sunday, September 14, 2014

Believe In Yourself

The other morning I doubted myself and the choices that I could have made. It was over something silly really but I feel like as a wife and a mother I should know what to do in every situation and honestly sometimes I just don't. Im human and there are times when I just don't have the answers.

Erik will soon be leaving to go back out to sea and all over again I need to learn how to live life like I don't have a husband in a sense. Every decision can no longer be talked over with him. Every problem that comes up he isn't going to know about it until possibly after the fact. I get it. Im an adult. But there comes a time when your just so use to having your husband home to lean on, to talk to, to have the weight of taking care of everything lifted off your shoulders. And then he leaves, so its all you. That can be scary for anyone. That can overwhelm and worry anyone. 

No one can take the place of your husband while he is away. The hardest part for me personally is night time. The kids are in bed, the house is calm and quiet and Im all alone. Theres no one to talk to about my day, what the kids did, what dinner will be for the following night or even to make weekend plans with. Then theres the fact that Im not one to ask for help. If I do, I usually back out before someone can even help me. I need to remember that I have family here who is willing to help, who is willing to watch the kids so I don't have a baby on my lap at a dentist appointment. 

So this is me putting on my big girl panties and believing in myself. Believing that I can and will get through the next five years without seeing my husband much. Believing that I can deal with any situation or problem that may come up without my husband by my side. Believing that it is okay to ask for help. Ive been a military spouse for over eight years so theres no going back now, theres only moving forward and handling shit like I should be.

If you are a military wife, how do you make the adjustment from shore duty to sea duty?

Monday, September 8, 2014


You know what I like? Getting shit done without having to ask someone for help. For example, today I brought my one year old to the dentist with me. The dentist. WTF was I thinking? There weren't enough packages of fruit snacks in the bottom of my purse to keep that child still. But, in the end I got done what I needed to and we headed home. Thats a win in my book. 

Now onto more things I'd like to accomplish.

[1] Relax and find my patience. Erik is leaving soon and I think that has been getting to me. Im finding myself a bit on the edgy side and thats not fair to anyone. Having shore duty for three years and then jumping back into sea duty is rough. We now have more on our plate; two kids, two animals, a brand new home. I'd be lying if I said that I wasn't scared to be alone again but its been our life for the past eight years and theres no going back now.
[2] Paint my nails, start a book and type out some blog posts, alone.
Alone - having no one else present; on one's own.

Yeah, I still have no clue what thats means.

[3] Try a new recipe or a DIY Pinterest project and blog about it.

[4] Create a meal plan and a budget for the next two weeks. Christmas is right around the corner and its time to save save save. Maybe I'll even create a cleaning schedule. 

[5] Take a walk around the neighborhood. We moved into such a pretty new community and we have yet to take the kids for a evening walk.

How about you, is there anything you need to get done this week?

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Bacon & Onion Pork Chops

Im always searching for a new pork chop recipe so when I came across this one I was pretty excited to attempt it. I must say, Im so glad that I did. After I took the picture I loaded the rice and the pork chop with more gravy. (I was trying to make the food look pretty, how'd I do?)


4 pork chops (I used boneless)
1/2 onion, diced
salt & pepper
4 slices of bacon, chopped
2 tablespoons of butter
2 tablespoons of cornstarch
3/4 cup of water


1. In a skillet cook the bacon. Once its cooked remove it and keep the drippings in the pan.

2. Add 1 tablespoon of butter and the diced onion to the skillet and cook the onion until transparent. Remove the onions and I drained the grease after this step.

3. Salt and pepper both sides of your pork chops and brown each side (2 - 4 minutes each)

4. Add your onions and chopped bacon to the skillet with the pork chops. Add 3/4 cup of water and 1 tablespoon of butter. Cover and simmer until cooked (5 - 10 minutes but the longer it simmers the juicer your pork chops will be.)

5. Just before serving remove 1/4 of the liquid from the skillet and mix it with 2 tablespoons of cornstarch. Whisk in the mixture and bring it to a quick boil to form a thick gravy.

Im telling you, this recipe is a worth a try. The pork chops were so soft and juicy that even my seven year old ate two of them! The bacon was a good texture as well, I was worried about it getting mushy but it wasn't at all. All around, we loved this meal.

Give it a try and let me know what you think!